Yay for first time moms! After being pregnant myself and also interacting with a million pregnant women since then, I have some of the most important pregnancy tips for first time moms that you will receive during your pregnancy.
No matter if it feels like you’ve been waiting for this moment for your entire life or you feel like you’re scared out of your shorts (or both), you’re probably wondering “What the heck do I do now?” I remember the feeling like it was yesterday (oh wait, was it?). The constant googling and wondering what I should do, what I should eat, what I should read was overwhelming.
How is a first time mother supposed to know what is most important? When I got pregnant for the first time, I felt it hard to prioritize the checklist in my mind and difficult to decide what advice I should be taking and from who.
I know you are feeling the same way, but as always, I am here to help! You can trust that these tips are not just words on a page but experiences I’ve had and things that women have expressed to me that they wish they would have done. This is the best pregnancy advice for first time moms that you can find on the internet.
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13 of the absolute best pieces of pregnancy advice for first time moms.
1. Get educated
So far so good, right? You are already doing just that. It is smart of you to seek advice from good and trusted sources. The number one source for educating yourself about your pregnancy and upcoming birth should always be your doctor or midwife. They have a wealth of knowledge and experience at the tips of their tongues but if you never ask, they may not know what to tell.
Ask questions, seek answers, and don’t do this whole “making a baby” thing blind. Check out some of my post popular posts related to pregnancy and birth here:
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2. Be Selective In What Advice You Take Seriously
Some people out there are giving advice for all of the wrong reasons. If someone on the internet is telling you that you should breast feed because formula is evil, she’s probably not someone you should take advice from. On the other hand if a friend is telling you to breastfeed because there is no formula on the shelf as natural and perfect as breast milk, I’d be more inclined to take her advice.
Don’t take pregnancy, labor, delivery, or parenting advice from someone trying to scare you, intimidate you, shame you, or put down a specific group of people for their own gain or pleasure.
It’s expected, I guess, that if someone has a bad experience with something, that they will be motivated to advise you against it. But always question what is fact versus opinion.
Taking bad pregnancy advice can be dangerous
We see this issue a lot on the Labor and Delivery unit. People start refusing interventions, medications, or medical advice because their friend says that inductions are unnecessary or Pitocin is poison. Do some real and valid research before you make decisions for you and your unborn child. Blindly following someone you once trusted but has no ground to stand on in this specific and all-important subject can lead to some really bad decision-making on your part.
First time moms have a big target on their back that says “influence me”. Just remember that you can change it to “I’m in control”.
3. Find a Tribe
If you are the first in your family or group of friends to start having babies, it can be difficult to find someone who is on the same page as you. But it’s so important.
When things get hard or scary, it is important to have someone going through something similar to lean on. Truthfully, sometimes it’s just nice to hear “Me too” from someone. When things get tough you may be able to find some relief in knowing that you aren’t alone.
The first step in gaining a tribe is easy enough. Subscribe to my Free Pregnancy Email Sequence and you will have a mom friend and listening ear at your finger tips. You’ll receive weekly emails with tips, tricks, advice, and encouragement straight from me. Reply to my emails any time and I will always write back with as much advice and reassurance that I can muster. I’m always happy to have you as a part of my mom tribe that I still need so desperately.
4. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Every woman and every pregnancy is different. It’s true, I promise. If you aren’t showing at the same time, aren’t feeling symptoms at the same time, are growing at a different rate, or are feeling, in general, just different than your pregnant friends, try to ignore it.
There is such an enormous range of normal when it comes to pregnancy. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to trust your body that it’s doing exactly what it should at exactly the right pace that it’s meant to.
If your provider isn’t concerned or if you would not have been concerned if it wasn’t for that one girl on Instagram and her perfect pregnancy, then try to forget about her and enjoy your own pregnancy.
5. Don’t Get Overwhelmed By The Baby Registry
You have nothing. You need everything. I know all about that life. I did so much research as a first time mom. I did so much googling and looked at so many reviews, it nearly killed me (or bored me to death, rather). I’ve done the work for you and it’s all written out here in my baby registry post.
Seriously, you would be doing yourself a disservice if you didn’t download this free checklist that has everything you need and nothing you don’t for your new baby.
6. Download These Apps
I’m a little app obsessed. Is that bad? Don’t judge me.
I feel like I just love having all the information I need right at my fingertips. If that’s wrong then I don’t want to be right.
Sprout Pregnancy App is amazing. Their 3D images of the “baby” with movements and little tid bits of information during each stage of development is like no other. I freaking adored this app when I was pregnant with my son.
Glow Nurture Pregnancy App was also one of my absolute favorites. Of course it keeps you up to date every day of your pregnancy and gives you precious info at every stage, but also it allows you to track almost everything including symptoms and other data. Not to mention it has a sister app that is Glow Baby Newborn tracker that is super useful in tracking baby’s feedings, poops, sleeps, etc (trust me, you’ll understand why this is necessary later)
Ovia Pregnancy is simple and to the point. You log in and immediately see an image of how big your unborn baby’s hand is compared to how big it will be at birth (ah! my favorite feature!), the size of the baby in fruit form, and a little fact for the day. Can’t get enough!
Last but not least, I use this app all of the time for the community feature – What To Expect App. I’m sure there are a million features or things to love about this app, but the community is like no other. These women are my friends, I’m telling you. Looking for a mom tribe? This is it, girlfriend.
7. Keep a journal
This is something I knew that I was going to do ahead of time and yet still, I wish I had journaled more! When your neck-deep in the difficulties of first trimester, busy nesting in the second trimester, and exhausted in the third, you might slack a little bit in keeping record of your signs, symptoms, and emotions.
Looking back on my journal from when I was pregnant with my son, I wish I had written down more specifics, more symptoms, more everything…but I love it. I cherish that sweet journal so much.
Add these things to your pregnancy journal to make it extra heart-wrenching:
- Pictures of your pregnancy
- fetal heart monitor strips from the hospital
- Ultrasound photos to add even more sentiment.
- Letters to your unborn baby
What you shouldn’t do when writing in your pregnancy journal is think that something isn’t important enough or you aren’t far along enough. Start the moment you get a positive pregnancy test. Write down the date, the time, the situation, and your emotions. When you read it in all of your abundance of free time with a newborn, it will flood back so many heart-felt emotions.
8. Take a baby moon
It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, but a get away is a must-do when you are a first time mom. You know what the most wonderful thing about being a first time mom is? You don’t have any other kids at home to need a babysitter for!
After this baby is born, vacations are going to be a little more complicated than what they are right now. You’re either going to have to plan a vacation with a baby and wake up at 6am on vacation or you’re going to have to find someone to watch your kid over night for a couple of days.
Right now you are as free as your going to be for a really long time. Just pick a vacation that is appropriate for you while with child. Personally, I didn’t want to go anywhere that I was expected to be in a bathing suit all week-long. We went to Alaska 😉
9. Take too many pictures
There is no such thing. Truly. It doesn’t matter what you look like, what your body size is, how photogenic you are, etc. You will look back on photos of you pregnant with love. It’s not only about you and your body. You have a baby in there. When you see your pregnant belly in pictures and then look over at your sweet child, you remember growing him inside you and how truly special it was.
I did not take enough pictures. I was tired, I didn’t have makeup on half the time, and I just wasn’t feeling like myself. So yeah, pictures just didn’t seem terribly appealing to me. But now I wish I had more. Next pregnancy I swear to take at least a picture every day (not necessarily a belly picture, just a picture).
10. Get plenty of rest (Nap)
A siesta is my idea of a fiesta, my friends! Now that I am a mom and naps just do not exist for me anymore, I am so thankful that I napped during my pregnancy. I can still remember the days where I could just collapse and close my eyes at any time of day with no one’s life to be responsible for outside of my own. Ahh those were the days.
Unfortunately we can’t bank sleep. Man, that would be nice. But even so, you’re going to be exhausted for a few months (or years) after your baby is born so get your beauty rest now.
Don’t you dare feel guilty about it, either! You’re growing a human. It’s exhausting and your husband just doesn’t understand.
11. Don’t worry
Stop googling every symptom (or lack there of). Worrying about everything little thing is going to cause you undue stress that isn’t good for you and your baby. I totally understand that scary things happen or may have even happened to you or your family in the past, but worrying about it won’t prevent it.
You will go completely bonkers figuring out why you’re feeling a certain way or what it means when your baby is doing a certain thing. Give it up. Pregnancy is weird and unpredictable. Try to control it and you’ll quickly find that it’s impossible. Relax a little and you’ll be glad you did.
12. Use A Pregnancy Subscription Box
Y’all, I’ve got to be honest with you. Having a cute, little, pink box show up at my door every month to surprise me with full size pregnancy goodies was the best decision I ever made.
I used Bump Boxes. It is so exciting to open up the box full of things I would have never thought of on my own. It’s a gift that I gave myself with my first pregnancy and I am so glad that I found it. I will do it again for every future pregnancy as well. Use this link to sign up for your monthly pregnancy subscription and you’ll receive 40% off of your first box! Yes!
13. Enjoy your pregnancy (and your body)
There will be times during your pregnancy that you just wish it was over. There will be times that you feel like you hate being pregnant. Take it from me. Love it. Love your growing body. Look in the mirror and smile. Feel the tiny flutters turn into massive kicks in the ribs and thank God for it. There are millions of women out there praying for a baby to sit on their bladder making them wake up to pee 3 times a night. It can be hard and I know it can be frustrating. But love it. Your body is incredible for what it can do during this amazing and fleeting time in your life.
Let me know what tips for first time moms you’ve received. Which tips for first time moms do you wish you received? Leave a comment below so I can hear them!
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