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  1. Yay for nurses! It was such a huge help to me to have a fantastic team of nurses who were just ON POINT the whole time. Good reminders that they are not “hotel staff” or assistants—they’re well-deserving professionals with amazing skills.

    1. THANK YOU! I felt that it was important to talk about. It is nurses’ week and all 😉 I’m so glad to hear you say that a nurse that is on top of her game is appreciated!

  2. We had the very best nurses for my first labor. I had begged for drugs (during transition) and that wasn’t in the written plan. The nurse whom I respected looked me in the eye and said, “I think you’re strong. You can do this. You don’t need those drugs.” She recognizes the medical point I was at and cheered me on at the time I needed outside perspective.

    1. That’s awesome!! I love when I hear stories like that! It is so true that once you are in transitional labor, you’ve done it! You’ve made it to the hardest point and if you’ve gone that far, you can do the rest. Good job mama! You are a superwoman!

  3. As an ER nurse I might use some of the things you’ve said in this in my own practice!!! You make fabulous points!!! We’re here to keep you alive and push for a positive outcome! Let us do our jobs the best way way we know how and give the best care for your wellbeing! ?

    1. Exactly! I think most of the time, people understand that we’re trying to help. But other times it seems like they think we are the bad guys! I have had a couple of experiences in the ER in my life and both times I immediately noticed how much you guys have to deal with. Respect, girlfriend, respect! You guys do an amazing job.

  4. When you mention us choosing a hospital birth for a reason, you fail to mention that some states forbid any other type of birth! If I have a home birth (no birthing centers in my state) the state will come remove my child and place them in foster care for “neglect”. Therefore I do not “choose” a hospital birth, I am forced into one because of my state and it sucks big time! I want the freedom to move and be comfortable in my own surroundings. Now if there was a situation and the baby came shooting out at home with no time to get to a hospital, thats a different story. Much like delivering in the car on the way to the hospital.

    1. You’re right, that does suck that you don’t have as many options as others might have! In your situation, if you wish to have the closest thing to a home birth that you can, I would suggest hiring a doula and laboring st home as long as possible. I actually recommend laboring at home as long as possible for any woman trying to have a natural birth. It’s more comfortable, you have more freedom, and you make your own decisions. If you are a first time mom, typically it takes quite a bit of laboring before you reach a point where you risk delivering at home. Learn as much as you can about what to expect in labor, do as much as you can at home, and then you will have less time in the hospital. Good luck!

    2. Anonymous says:

      For me , I also don’t really have a choice to have my baby at home or at a birth center because the costs are too high and insurance won’t cover it or the midwives don’t take insurance.

      Also if it’s a private hospital, the doctor does work for me . I hired them to oversee my pregnancy and delivery. I understand that hospitals have policies but that doesn’t mean the patient has to comply with all policies. I’ll happily sign an AMA if needed. My husband is a nurse at the hospital where I am having our baby so I do feel like I am in good hands, I also trust my doctor to make good decisions for both my baby and I.

  5. I am an ICU nurse and pregnant with my first baby. You made so many amazing points that stretch beyond labor and delivery! Great job! I am looking forward to reading your other posts!

    1. That’s so great to hear! Thank you! Congratulations and Good luck on your pregnancy!!

  6. It would be far more professional hearing some of this from the actual staff supporting you in your delivery vs being treated like an idiot. I know not every nursing professional is identical and we don’t have great days every day. I felt ignored and as if I was an inconvenience to the L&D nurse assigned to me. My doctors partner delivered my daughter. He definitely was in a hurry. He even stated it in his remarks to the anesthesiologist. “Let’s get this baby here before lunch.” I had problems with the anesthesia. His rush and the nurses silence let me know, I didn’t matter. Doctor rush stitched me with more comments, “Quit shaking, you’re giving yourself laserations.” More silence. As he walked out, he looked back and said, “You can give her anything you want now.” Anesthesiologist Gabe a shot for pain, I went to sleep. Thank God. Whooshed into recovery, nurse tried to hand me my child. I felt like jello. I was afraid she’d fall out of my arms to the floor. So, nurses, speak up and listen, if your patient seems dazed. Yes, I did go to the hospitals prepared childbirth classes. One and done, can’t risk dying. Ended up with a D&C 6 mo later, still bleeding.

    1. I agree. I wish more nurses and OB providers spoke to their patients more about what to expect, what’s normal, what’s not normal, etc. It sounds like you were definitely disrespected in labor and I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you are doing well.

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